Nov. 17, 2010
Opponents of abstinence-until-marriage education argue, among other things, that it is unrealistic. As evidence, they point to survey data indicating that a majority of Americans now do, in fact, have sexual relations before marrying.
However, the message of the abstinence movement (and related movements favoring the words purity or chastity) is not so simplistic as to say that if a person loses his or her virginity before marrying, that person is then beyond redemption. On the contrarywhile any premarital sex can have lasting consequences, it is never too late to begin the practice of abstinence/purity/chastity, regardless of ones past mistakes.
A beautiful testimony to that truth appeared November 14 in, of all places, the Washington Post. The story begins like this:
Gareth Warren didn't know what to think in the summer of 2008 when the grandmother of his godson handed him a book titled "The Best Sex of My Life."
Then he read the subtitle: "A Guide to Purity."
"She just said, 'I want to give this to you,' " says Warren, who wasn't exactly focused on sexual purification at that point.
In his dating life, the 26-year-old assistant vice president at GE Capital had always gravitated toward models and cheerleaders. His relationships were usually fun, but ultimately unfulfilling.
Warren gradually became persuaded by the message of the book and changed his lifestyle. Then he was introduced to the young, female author of the book, a medical doctor named Lindsay Marsh.
As you might have guessed, Warren and Marsh ended up together, and were married on October 30.